Short of salvation, one of the greatest blessings a man can receive from God is a virtuous wife. I can say from my life’s experiences, that a virtuous wife is in dispensable in the service of Christ. What a blessing it is to have Eva as my wife. She is a wife that loves the Lord, and is willing to use her talents and abilities to further the cause of Christ.
I can honestly say that I do not know what I would ever do without my wife. I shudder to think what my life would be like without her encouragement, care, understanding, advice and sacrifice on my behalf. I have become a far better and more effective servant of Christ since Eva has entered my life. I give the Lord all the thanksgiving, praise and honor for raising up a wonderful lady and allowing me to be blessed with her presence in my life. To God be the glory.
I know that there are many other men who feel the same way about their wives.
Lemuel, the writer of Proverbs 31:, is one of those men who had a great appreciation and understanding of the value of a virtuous woman. Let’s take a moment to study what Lemuel had to say about the value and characteristics of a virtuous woman…
Before we begin our study, let’s try to define what is meant by a “virtuous” woman. The word “virtuous” in Proverbs 31 is a word that carries the ideas of:
“influential” – others follow her example and the advice she gives to them.
“precious” – she is highly valued in the eyes of others
“resourceful” – she is able to accomplish her goals through her labors and ingenuity
“morally good” – she keeps the moral commands of God for her life
When we say a woman is “virtuous”, we are saying that the woman is resourceful and morally upright causing her to be influential in the eyes of others. Because of all these qualities, she is looked upon as a woman of great value.
King Lemuel’s writings about a virtuous woman begins in Prov 31:10 …
The Value of a Virtuous Woman…
10) Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price [is] far above rubies.
Lemuel attempts to get our attention to the subject of virtuous women by first describing their great value. So what is the value of a virtuous woman in our world? God reveals to us through Lemuel that the a virtuous woman’s value cannot be adequately described. In the days of the Old Testament writings, a ruby was of very high value. When Lemuel states that a godly woman’s value is HIGH ABOVE rubies, he is stating that she must be included with the most valuable treasures on earth.
What would our lives be without virtuous women in our families, churches and society as a whole? It is through the influence of virtuous, godly mothers that our children have been brought up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
The idea of rubies reflecting value is also used to describe the value of wisdom and knowledge (Pro 3:15. 8:11, 20:15). The gifts that a Godly mother bestows upon her children, through her example and teachings give them the tools necessary to deal with the many, varied situations they will face in life. So too, wisdom and knowledge are greatly needed to give us guidance for the world in which we live.
The Characteristics of a Virtuous Woman…
#1 – Trustworthiness
11) The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
12) She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
A virtuous woman can be counted upon to always work for the benefit and advancement of her husband throughout his worldly endeavors. She can be trusted to be a faithful mate, and one that is always there for support, godly advice and counsel.
#2 – She recognizes the physical, and spiritual, needs of her family and works tirelessly to supply those needs
13) She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
14) She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
15) She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.
16) She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
17) She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
18) She perceiveth that her merchandise [is] good: her candle goeth not out by night.
19) She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
For those who have the privilege of having a virtuous mother caring for them… there is one thing they can count on… their needs will be met. Their mother will “go to the ends of the earth” for them, to meet their needs and make sure that they have what is best for them in life.
Sometimes, meeting the needs of their children, requires a Godly mother to say “No” to her own desires. She is glad to do this for her children and husband. Her number one goal is to put her family first and put herself second.
Why does she do this? She knows that her treasure is awaiting her in heaven for serving her Lord by taking care of her family on earth.
#3 – She is compassionate to others in need
20) She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.
A virtuous woman’s compassion is not confined to her family. She also is compassionate towards neighbors and strangers in need. She is very welcoming and loving to those who are in need of that which she can give.
#4 – She is productive.
21) She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household [are] clothed with scarlet.
22) She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing [is] silk and purple.
23) Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
24) She maketh fine linen, and selleth [it]; and delivereth girdles unto the merchant.
25) Strength and honour [are] her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.
A virtuous woman is very creative producing items that are needed by her family. She enhances the testimony and reputation of her husband. She makes much needed, high quality items of great great value. Her labor is not wasteful. She shares in the responsibilities of meeting the needs of her household.
She is repaid by having an outstanding reputation among others and she awaits the receipt of heavenly rewards for living a life pleasing to the Lord.
#5 – She possesses the truth and shares it with others.
26) She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue [is] the law of kindness.
27) She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.
The virtuous woman not only meets the physical needs of her family and other acquaintances, but she also works to meet the spiritual needs of those around her as well. She keeps busy actively working for the good of others.
#6 – Her actions demand praise, honor and respect from all that crosses her path
28) Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband [also], and he praiseth her.
29) Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all.
30) Favour [is] deceitful, and beauty [is] vain: [but] a woman [that] feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.
31) Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates.
A virtuous woman DESERVES the respect, honor, praise and appreciation of her family and acquaintances. After making sacrifice upon sacrifice for others, she deserves to receive others care and appreciation while yet on this earth.
Nevertheless, ultimately, the virtuous woman will receive the praise that she deserves as she stands before her Lord. All of her works of charity and self-sacrifice will not go unrewarded.
As adults, we need to stop and consider the influence our mother had on our developing lives as children. We need to take time to honor them, thank them and care for them as they grow older. (Exo 20:12)
As children, we need to love and appreciate our mothers. We need to be sure they know of our love by obeying them, making their lives more pleasant for them. We should respect the other Godly women the Lord has placed in our lives. We should appreciate them and honor them, knowing they are working for our physical and spiritual benefit. (Eph 6:1-3, Exo 20:12)
As husbands, we need to notice and appreciate all that our wives do for us and our families. We need to love them and cherish them and strive to care for them as Christ cares for His church. (Eph 5:25-31)
But especially, all of us need to thank our Lord for these Godly influences in our lives. If it was not for the Lord, we would not have these Godly women helping us through life.
For those of us who have received salvation from our sins, probably a Godly mother, SS teacher, or friend had shared the gospel with us. We need to especially appreciate them for taking the time and concern to share the wonderful gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ with us.
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