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SIH TOTT ICONHe layeth up sound wisdom for the righteous (Prov 2:7)

 

God’s Word Affects: Our Relationships With Others (2): Proverbs 19:8-11

8) He that getteth wisdom loveth his own soul: he that keepeth understanding shall find good.
9) A false witness shall not be unpunished, and [he that] speaketh lies shall perish.
10) Delight is not seemly for a fool; much less for a servant to have rule over princes.
11) The discretion of a man deferreth his anger; and [it is] his glory to pass over a transgression.

We now continue Solomon’s teachings on the many principles from God’s Word we can use in the forming and developing solid relationships with others…

EXPOSITION:

8) He that getteth wisdom loveth his own soul: he that keepeth understanding shall find good.
Principle #1 – Both wisdom and understanding are vital assets to obtaining quality relationships with others.
1.  When we seek and obtain the application of God’s Word to our life, we are only helping ourselves in every area of our life, including our relationships with others.  In doing so, we are showing a love and willingness to sacrifice of ourselves for our own long-term good.
2.  Likewise, those who securely hold fast to understanding the truths of God will bring upon themselves that which is pleasing to the Lord, their associates, and themselves.

The more of the Word that we understand and apply, the more helpful we become to others.  Through our acts of kindness, Godly counsel, and concern for others, our relationships are nurtured and strengthened.

He that hath my commandments, and keepeth them, he it is that loveth me: and he that loveth me shall be loved of my Father, and I will love him, and will manifest myself to him.”   (John 14:21)

9) A false witness shall not be unpunished, and [he that] speaketh lies shall perish.
As we have already seen in verse 5 of this text, deceit and fraud will only hinder our relationships.
1.  Those who profess falsehoods against others will not be able to escape the deserved results of their actions.
2.  Those who speak falsely will eventually experience utter ruin.

Why would Solomon repeat this dire warning to us?  Perhaps, it is due to the serious results of dishonesty in our relationships.  There is nothing that will destroy a relationship more quickly than dishonesty, which will foster an attitude of distrust and resentment.

He that overcometh shall inherit all things; and I will be his God, and he shall be my son.  But the fearful, and unbelieving, and the abominable, and murderers, and whoremongers, and sorcerers, and idolaters, and all liars, shall have their part in the lake which burneth with fire and brimstone: which is the second death.”   (Revelation 21:7-8)

10) Delight is not seemly for a fool; much less for a servant to have rule over princes.
Principle #2 – Godly relationships require us to recognize our shortcomings and the strength of others around us.
1.  To find joy in their position in life is not beneficial for the fool.  This breeds a spirit of contentment and lack of want which hinders them seeing their need of forgiveness and change.
2.  Likewise, it is not beneficial for a foolish servant to be promoted to rule over those who have a greater amount of wisdom and ability.

True friends will recognize the need to take a back seat to those of greater knowledge and abilities in certain areas of their relationship.  They will be ready to accept responsibilities in their areas of strength, while turning over responsibilities in areas of their weakness.  This is a key principle in bringing unity and success to our relationships.

Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse [your] hands, [ye] sinners; and purify [your] hearts, [ye] double minded.  Be afflicted, and mourn, and weep: let your laughter be turned to mourning, and [your] joy to heaviness.  Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall lift you up.”   (James 4:8-10)

11) The discretion of a man deferreth his anger; and [it is] his glory to pass over a transgression.
Principle #3 – Forgiveness is another key factor in possessing successful relationships.
1.  Knowledge that produces success will cause a man to patiently hold back his wrathful anger.
2.  It will bring praise and honor of others, when a man overlooks actions that step over the line in opposition to  him.

Forgiveness is releasing the offender from deserved punishment for the actions he has performed against us.  It is saying “Although you have brought harm upon me, I do not desire for you to be punished for your actions.”  It is a wiliness to lay down our thoughts and desires for vengeance, by overlooking their wrongdoing.  How important forgiveness is to any relationship.   Because we are fallen creatures, we will fail, abuse, and bring harm upon others.  No one is exempt from this.  It is during these times, that a spirit of forgiveness must be had to sustain the relationship.  By forgiving, not only are we seeking to continue the relationship, but we are exhibiting one of the greatest testimonies of Christ (His love, forgiveness and sacrifice) that is possible to a lost and dying world.

Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering;  Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also [do] ye.”   (Colossians 3:12-13)

SUMMARY:

In our study  so far, these are the principles we have learned about the forming and keeping of our relationships with others:
Principle #1 – Relationships are formed and sustained when benefits can be received through the relationship.
Principle #2 – Honesty is another key factor in the forming and sustaining of strong relationships.
Principle #3 – Relationships require a gracious, humble, giving of oneself for those who are undeserving of our aid.
Principle #4 – Relationships should not be taken for granted, nor should the actions of our friends on our behalf be ignored, unappreciated, or neglected.  To the best of our ability we are to seek to give back to those who sacrificially give to us.
Principle #5 – Both wisdom and understanding are vital assets to obtaining quality relationships with others.
Principle #6 – Godly relationships require us to recognize our shortcomings and the strength of others around us.
Principle #7 – Forgiveness is another key factor in possessing successful relationships.

By God’s grace, let us all study these proverbs diligently, giving them the value that they deserve.

May the Lord bless us as we receive this sound wisdom and then “Think On These Things”.

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12 Comments

  1. Thanks for liking the Be Someone post! God bless you! Your daily posts are awesome!! Thank you 😜

  2. Shofar says:

    Thank you, Pastor Rob! The Lord spoke through His Word today with verse 11 regarding forgiveness. In plain language, it makes no sense to stew about something the offending party is oblivious to, is it? So the answer is to get over it, and move on. The Holy Spirit is indeed the best teacher of God’s Word!
    Blessings to you,
    ~Liz

  3. Rob, you have made it very clear through this series that our amazing God has supplied ALL we need to live victorious lives in Christ, and that we are WITHOUT EXCUSE if we fail to use His resources. Ww are fools indeed if we don’t heed His Word.

    • Rob Barkman says:

      You have touched on what I see as a consistent theme throughout Proverbs. By learning the need to rely on Him at all times, as Christians we have won the battle. Thanks for your faithfulness and your comments. Lord bless you.

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