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SIH TOTT ICONHe layeth up sound wisdom for the righteous (Prov 2:7)

God’s Word Affects: Our Relationships With Others (3): Proverbs 19:12-15

12) The king’s wrath [is] as the roaring of a lion; but his favour [is] as dew upon the grass.
13) A foolish son [is] the calamity of his father: and the contentions of a wife [are] a continual dropping.
14) House and riches [are] the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife [is] from the LORD.
15) Slothfulness casteth into a deep sleep; and an idle soul shall suffer hunger.

We now continue Solomon’s teachings on the many principles from God’s Word we can use in the forming and developing solid relationships with others…

EXPOSITION:

12) The king’s wrath [is] as the roaring of a lion; but his favour [is] as dew upon the grass.
Principle #1 – To enhance and guide our relationships with others, we are to recognize the authority they hold over us and recognize the great affect that they have in our lives.

1.  When those in authority turn their anger towards us, they can be an unrelenting destructive force in our lives. Much like a hungry lion who stalks then consumes his prey.
2.  When we please those who are in authority, they can be a refreshing, strengthening influence, helping us to achieve our life goals.

We should never take for granted the great influence of those in authority over us.  Their intervention in our lives can, many times determine our successes or failures in life. Because of this, we should always carefully weigh our responses to them, taking into consideration the long term results of any action that may displease or dishonor them.
In this decision we are to take into account the desires of our Lord, the One who holds the supreme authority over us…  We possess a great need to reverence and submit to the will and ways of the Lord, the One who holds the absolute control over our temporal and eternal lives.

And I say unto you my friends, Be not afraid of them that kill the body, and after that have no more that they can do.  But I will forewarn you whom ye shall fear: Fear him, which after he hath killed hath power to cast into hell; yea, I say unto you, Fear him.”   (Luke 12:4-5)

13) A foolish son [is] the calamity of his father: and the contentions of a wife [are] a continual dropping.
Principle #2 – To strengthen our relationships with others, we should be constantly thinking of our actions effects on their wellbeing.

1.  A son who does not apply the Word to their lives, causes distress and eventual ruin in the life of their father.
2.  A spouse that consistently causes disagreements and separation are a unrelenting irritation, distraction, tension and distress (like a Chinese water torture) to their spouse.

In principle one of this text, we saw the need to consider the results of our actions upon ourselves (in the treatment of those in authority).  What are two greatest ways we can hinder others through our actions?
a.  Not applying God’s Word to our thoughts and actions.  This causes us to set the wrong example for others, and also it brings worry and sadness upon those who care the most for us.
b.  Not working for peace and harmony.  This causes those around us to be distracted from pursuing their goals and fulfilling their responsibilities, it also causes separation, and it opens the door for sinful attitudes (such as anger) to enter the relationship.

Also, notice that a father/son and spousal relationship is being used as examples.  This points us to the fact that, in most cases, our actions will have the greatest effect on those who are the closest to us.

For therefore we both labour and suffer reproach, because we trust in the living God, who is the Saviour of all men, specially of those that believe.  These things command and teach.  Let no man despise thy youth; but be thou an example of the believers, in word, in conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity.  Till I come, give attendance to reading, to exhortation, to doctrine.”   (1 Timothy 4:10-13)

Finally, [be ye] all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, [be] pitiful, [be] courteous:   Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.  For he that will love life, and see good days, let him refrain his tongue from evil, and his lips that they speak no guile:  Let him eschew evil, and do good; let him seek peace, and ensue it.”  (1 Peter 3:8-11)

14) House and riches [are] the inheritance of fathers: and a prudent wife [is] from the LORD.  15) Slothfulness casteth into a deep sleep; and an idle soul shall suffer hunger.
Principle #3 – to fulfill our responsibility towards others and develop our relationships, we are to seek to help secure the physical, emotional and spiritual needs of our acquaintances.

1.  Gifts that are given to help meet the physical needs of others show a heart of love and concern, much like the inheritance left to the child by the loving parent.
2.  Gifts given to help meet the spiritual and emotional needs of others also show a love and concern, much like the giving of a wise spouse by the Lord.

Do we often think about the needs of those who are close to us?  Are we willing to expend our time, effort and possessions to supply the life necessities of our companions?  This is all a part of being there in their time of need and proving ourselves to be true friends.  As we play a role in helping others to meet their needs is effectively allowing the Lord to work through us….

Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.”  (James 1:17)

Of course, our responsibilities to help others DOES NOT extend to those who are lazy and purposefully suffering want (vs 15)….
1.  A lazy, uncaring attitude results in being unaware of what is taking place around us.
2.  A person who is not industrious, actively working to meet their needs, will

Suffering lack is a natural result of laziness and idleness and is one tool used by the Lord to show others their need to live responsibly.   In this case, we are to share instruction from the Word that will help them to understand their need to diligently seek their needs.
However, we are to be certain to help those who, in spite of their efforts to meet their own needs, still find themselves lacking the necessities of life.

For yourselves know how ye ought to follow us: for we behaved not ourselves disorderly among you;  Neither did we eat any man’s bread for nought; but wrought with labour and travail night and day, that we might not be chargeable to any of you:  Not because we have not power, but to make ourselves an ensample unto you to follow us.  For even when we were with you, this we commanded you, that if any would not work, neither should he eat.”   (2 Thessalonians 3:7-10)

SUMMARY:

As our study progresses, these are the principles we have learned about the forming and keeping of our relationships with others:
Principle #1 – Relationships are formed and sustained when benefits can be received through the relationship.
Principle #2 – Honesty is another key factor in the forming and sustaining of strong relationships.
Principle #3 – Relationships require a gracious, humble, giving of oneself for those who are undeserving of our aid.
Principle #4 – Relationships should not be taken for granted, nor should the actions of our friends on our behalf be ignored, unappreciated, or neglected.  To the best of our ability we are to seek to give back to those who sacrificially give to us.
Principle #5 – Both wisdom and understanding are vital assets to obtaining quality relationships with others.
Principle #6 – Godly relationships require us to recognize our shortcomings and the strength of others around us.
Principle #7 – Forgiveness is another key factor in possessing successful relationships.
Principle #8 – We are to recognize the authority they hold over us and recognize the great affect that they have in our lives.
Principle #9 – We should be constantly thinking of our actions effects on their wellbeing.
Principle #10 – We are to seek to help secure the physical, emotional and spiritual needs of our acquaintances.

By God’s grace, let us all study these proverbs diligently, giving them the value that they deserve.

May the Lord bless us as we receive this sound wisdom and then “Think On These Things”.

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9 Comments

  1. Terry says:

    Thanks Rob, another good lesson!

  2. Amen, may we all pray and meditate on these things. Thank you!

  3. SLIMJIM says:

    Nice thanks, makes me think about relationship in light of the principles you drawn from Proverbs 19; I’ll be preaching for a retreat soon on the theme of relationship so this gets me thinking

  4. pj54 says:

    Hi Rob! It’s been a while. As always, I really enjoyed your post. People so need to read this. Too many try to get by by actions, such as doing something good for others, but then they forget the other half which is to do it humbly, and cheerfully, not thinking to themselves “look at me, see what I did for him/her?” People tend to forget that the important thing to God is obedience to His Word, and what is in our hearts. No matter what we do for others, if our heart is not in it, we are doing it in vain.

    Thanks for the reminder of so many good points.

    God Bless,
    PJ

    • Rob Barkman says:

      Hey PJ,

      Welcome back! Glad to hear from you again. I’ll be sure to check your site in case you have put a new posting out. Will you guys be taking another trip this fall and winter? If so, hopefully you will be able to be back on line on a regular basis.

      Thanks for the kind words, I have really enjoyed preparing the study through Proverbs, so much important information on practical living.

      Lord bless you PJ. Thanks for letting me know you are back online.

  5. If we all followed the 10 principles, the world would be a better place. God knows what He is talking about!

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