Settled In Heaven Blog

Home » SIH Lesson Themes » Practical » SIH’s Think On These Things: Proverbs 19:16-19

SIH’s Think On These Things: Proverbs 19:16-19

Follow Us And Keep Updated On All SIH Postings ...

As The Lord Wills...Upcoming Series On SIH Blog. Don't Miss Out!

No upcoming events

Blog Subscription Tools:

Blog Stats

  • 370,003 hits

Enter your email address to subscribe to this blog and receive notifications of new posts by email.

Join 4,570 other followers

Follow SIH Ministries On:

SIH TOTT ICONHe layeth up sound wisdom for the righteous (Prov 2:7)


God’s Word Affects: Our Relationships With Others (4): Proverbs 19:16-19

16) He that keepeth the commandment keepeth his own soul; [but] he that despiseth his ways shall die.
17) He that hath pity upon the poor lendeth unto the LORD; and that which he hath given will he pay him again.
18) Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying.
19) A man of great wrath shall suffer punishment: for if thou deliver [him], yet thou must do it again.

We now continue Solomon’s teachings on the many principles from God’s Word we can use, in the forming and developing solid relationships with others…


16) He that keepeth the commandment keepeth his own soul; [but] he that despiseth his ways shall die.
Here, we see a basic principle in developing good relations with those who possess authority over us….
1.  A person that attends to the commandments given to them by those in authority, are only helping themselves to avoid the wrath of the command giver.
2.   A person that systematically rejects the commands of higher authorities places themselves in a dangerous position of opposition to those in power (whether it be God or man).  In many cases, continual rebellion will result in physical or spiritual death.

This is a very important principle that should not be overlooked.  We are to always keep the command of God (the One who holds ultimate authority over us).  This enables the Christian to avoid the chastening hand of God.

However our, responsibility does not stop here.  We are to also obey the commands of men as long as, in doing so, we are not breaking the commands of God. By obeying those in authority, we are escaping their hand of punishment and cultivating a successful atmosphere for all of our pursuits.

But this thing commanded I them, saying, Obey my voice, and I will be your God, and ye shall be my people: and walk ye in all the ways that I have commanded you, that it may be well unto you.”   (Jeremiah 7:23)

17) He that hath pity upon the poor lendeth unto the LORD; and that which he hath given will he pay him again.
Here, we find two motivating forces behind our giving to the needy…
1.  Those who look upon those in need, willing to give of ourselves to meet that need, are actually giving for the Lord.
2.  When we give to meet the needs of the poor, will be blessed of God in repayment for our actions.

Remember, the “poor” can include those who have physical, emotional, or spiritual needs.  While “giving” to meet their need can involve giving time, labor or finances.

Knowing this, let’s always strive to help the needy that are brought in our lives by the Lord.  It is a wonderful opportunity to serve the Lord and receive His more valuable blessings in return.

But this [I say], He which soweth sparingly shall reap also sparingly; and he which soweth bountifully shall reap also bountifully.  Every man according as he purposeth in his heart, [so let him give]; not grudgingly, or of necessity: for God loveth a cheerful giver.  And God [is] able to make all grace abound toward you; that ye, always having all sufficiency in all [things], may abound to every good work:”   (2 Corinthians 9:6-8)

18) Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying.
1.  The parent is to properly discipline the child while there is still hope of their reformation. While the child is young, they possess a more teachable nature and, therefore, more apt to learn from the discipline.
2.  Although the child will cry as if he is dying (“crying” is derived from a Hebrew word meaning “death”) the discipline is still to be performed.  Although it is painful, at the time, the discipline will be of far greater benefit for the child, and parent, in the future.

“Chastening “ comes from an interesting Hebrew word. This word possesses three different ideas to it… “to instruct”,” to correct”,  and “to punish”

When the child commits a wrongdoing, the parent’s responsibility is three-fold.  They are to:
1. “instruct” the child…. Teaching them the sinfulness of the action and explaining why the action is sinful.
2. “correct” the child… Teach them how to avoid the temptation to commit this sin in the future and what action should be performed to replace the sinful acts and make amends.
3.  If the child refuses to accept this instruction and correction, shown by continuing in their sinful action, the issue becomes an issue of willful disobedience.  It is at this point that “discipline” should be used to bring the child to submission to your instructions and corrections.

Discipline should ALWAYS BE RESERVED for those in rebellion to the instruction and correction of a higher authority. It is to be performed to bring willful disobedience into submission.  It is NEVER to be used before the proper instruction, correction, and opportunity to submit is given to the child.  The Lord Himself has set the perfect example for us in this area.  He NEVER chastens His children who disobey due to ignorance of His commands.  He always withholds chastening until the child of God comes to knowledge of the truth and then rebels against the conviction of the Holy Spirit.

Ye have not yet resisted unto blood, striving against sin.  And ye have forgotten the exhortation which speaketh unto you as unto children, My son, despise not thou the chastening of the Lord, nor faint when thou art rebuked of him:  For whom the Lord loveth he chasteneth, and scourgeth every son whom he receiveth.  If ye endure chastening, God dealeth with you as with sons; for what son is he whom the father chasteneth not?  But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons.  Furthermore we have had fathers of our flesh which corrected [us], and we gave [them] reverence: shall we not much rather be in subjection unto the Father of spirits, and live?  For they verily for a few days chastened [us] after their own pleasure; but he for [our] profit, that [we] might be partakers of his holiness.  Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby.  Wherefore lift up the hands which hang down, and the feeble knees;  And make straight paths for your feet, lest that which is lame be turned out of the way; but let it rather be healed.”  (Hebrews 12:4-13)

19) A man of great wrath shall suffer punishment: for if thou deliver [him], yet thou must do it again.
One of the greatest purposes of discipline is to break the will of rebellion, thus helping the child to avoid the upcoming wrath of man and God….
1.  Men who angrily receive the commands of those in authority will face the punishment of those in authority.  Better the child learn this lesson when young, being punished at the hand of a loving parent, than to face the punishment of an uncaring human government or the wrath of Almighty God.
2.  If we remove the angry, rebellious child from his deserved discipline… the rebellion issue will be faced over and over again.  Better to impart discipline when we see the rebellious spirit, than to allow it to become a part of the child’s habitual lifestyle.

Keep in mind, another of the great benefits of discipline, is teaching the child a lifestyle of submission to higher authority.  In doing so, we are preparing their young hearts to submit to the Lord in salvation and service to Him.  How sad if a parent will see their child condemned to the Lake of Fire in the last judgment and realize they are partially responsible by allowing their child to develop a lifestyle of rebellious behavior.

That they might set their hope in God, and not forget the works of God, but keep his commandments:  And might not be as their fathers, a stubborn and rebellious generation; a generation [that] set not their heart aright, and whose spirit was not stedfast with God.”   (Psalms 78:7-8)


As our study progresses, these are the principles we have learned about the forming and keeping of our relationships with others:
Principle #1 – Relationships are formed and sustained when benefits can be received through the relationship.
Principle #2 – Honesty is another key factor in the forming and sustaining of strong relationships.
Principle #3 – Relationships require a gracious, humble, giving of oneself for those who are undeserving of our aid.
Principle #4 – Relationships should not be taken for granted, nor should the actions of our friends on our behalf be ignored, unappreciated, or neglected.  To the best of our ability we are to seek to give back to those who sacrificially give to us.
Principle #5 – Both wisdom and understanding are vital assets to obtaining quality relationships with others.
Principle #6 – Godly relationships require us to recognize our shortcomings and the strength of others around us.
Principle #7 – Forgiveness is another key factor in possessing successful relationships.
Principle #8 – We are to recognize the authority they hold over us and recognize the great affect that they have in our lives.
Principle #9 – We should be constantly thinking of our actions effects on their wellbeing.
Principle #10 – We are to seek to help secure the physical, emotional and spiritual needs of our acquaintances.
Principle #11 – By obeying those in authority, punishment is avoided and a groundwork for success is laid.
Principle #12 – Helping the needy is a wonderful opportunity to serve the Lord and receive His blessings.
Principle #13 – Parents are to chasten their children, using discipline to those who are rebellious.
Principle #14 – Through discipline, a child can develop a lifestyle of submission to authority, laying the groundwork of submission to Christ for their salvation.

By God’s grace, let us all study these proverbs diligently, giving them the value that they deserve.

May the Lord bless us as we receive this sound wisdom and then “Think On These Things”.

SIH Homepage:
SIH Text Blog:
SIH Video Blog:
SIH Email:


  1. Terry says:

    you mean God looks upon us with a smile when we take pity on others?

  2. Awesome principles to abide by; especially when dealing with unruly relatives. Yeah! Thanks for the advise. 🙂

  3. Can’t tell ya how much these bless me!! Grace and peace Brother…

    • Rob Barkman says:

      Thank you so much for your kind words and your wonderful blog. I really enjoyed your latest posts on marriage. Thank you. Lord bless.

  4. Shofar says:

    Very good and important teachings, Pastor Rob!

  5. Thank you Brother! These are life changing if we allow them to be.

  6. Excellent!! Amen and Amen…bless you!

  7. As I read through this, I was thinking of an old saying that no man is an island. This is true in the Christian life. We are called to the ministry of reconciliation. We are ambassadors for Christ. Our relationships are very important and bear many responsibilities.

    “Faithful is He who called you” is a sure promise and as we depend on Him and His enabling and empowering, I know He will enable us to live to His glory in all our relationships.

    Thanks again Rob.

Comments are closed.

Translate This Blog Into Other Languages...

Search Our Site For All Your Favorite Postings...

Guide To Our Current Postings…

Currently Being Updated For 2012-2013

%d bloggers like this: